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NINE
STEPS TO FORGIVENESS
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1.
Know exactly how you feel about what happened and
be able to articulate the issues of the situation that negatively
affect you. Then, tell trusted people about your experience.
2. Make a commitment to yourself to do what you
have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not
anyone else.
3. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation
with the person who hurt you, or condoning of the persons
action. Your aim is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined
as the "peace and understanding that come from blaming
that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience
less personally, and changing your grievance story."
4. Get the right perspective on what is happening.
Recongnize that your primary distress is coming from the
hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering
now, not what offended you or hurt you 2 minutes or 10 years
ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.
5. At the moment you feel upset, practice a simple
stress managment technique to soothe your bodys "flight
or fight" response.
6. Give up expecting things from other people,
or your life, that they do not choose to give you. Recognize
the "unenforceable rules" you have for your health
or how you or other people must behae. Remind yourself that
you seek health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard
to get them.
7. Look for another way to get your positive
goals met outside of the experience that has hurt you. Instead
of mentally replaying you hurt, find new ways to get what
you want.
8. Remember that a life well lived is your best
revenge. Instead of focusing on you wounded feelings ( which
gives the person who caused you pain power over you), use
your energy t look for the love, beauty and kindness in
the world around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.
9. Amend you grievance story to remind you of your
own heroic choice to forgive.
As you step toward forgiveness,
start with a small hurt. Practice the steps you shoud take,
then try the steps out on a friend you trust.
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Accomplishment.
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